Boundaries get you some

For too long, I thought saying yes meant I was being a good person. A good friend. A good daughter. A good woman. I believed that showing up for everyone, at any time, in any way they needed, was a reflection of my worth. But let me tell you something—it wasn’t.

What it was, though, was exhausting.

I learned the hard way that people will take as much as you give. Not always out of malice, but because they will follow the rhythm you set. If you’re always available, always accommodating, and always saying yes, they will assume that’s just who you are. Meanwhile, you’re left feeling drained, unheard, and maybe even a little resentful.

That’s where boundaries come in.

Boundaries are not walls. They are not weapons. They are not punishments. They are a form of self-love. They are a way of saying, I respect myself enough to protect my energy, my peace, and my time.

So, if you’re still hesitating to set boundaries, here’s your reminder:

• No is a complete sentence!

• It’s okay to say no without explaining yourself.

• It’s okay to prioritize your peace over other people’s expectations.

• It’s okay to walk away from relationships that don’t respect your limits.

• It’s okay to choose yourself.

And if anyone makes you feel guilty for that, remember: the people who truly love and respect you will honor your boundaries, not challenge them.

So, go ahead and get you some boundaries. Your future self will thank you. 💛